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Commitment is Love

photo (4)I have been bothered by all the messaging in this world, from sports to Hollywood to the grocery store ads. It is all about pleasure—personal pleasure. It tells us to be discontent with our lives. It tells us we are too short or too tall, our nose is too large or too flat, we'd be smarter if we drove a smart car or cooler if our hybrid was a Prius.

Heaven forbid if you still have a “dumb” phone or are seen without an iPhone. Our world says, you can be loved if you are cool, hip, rad or sic(k). Sadly, there is too much self-love and love of stuff. This is how the media and advertising outlets are defining love—this self-love—and sadly, it can become all-consuming and never satisfying.

Ironically, a love based on stuff and how we look is temporary at best, and satisfying only for the moment. As a breath of fresh air, in January, our family committed a passage in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13, to memory. This is the quintessential passage on what Love is and isn't. 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. ….13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.

But the greatest of these is love. I would contend that our society needs the above mentioned love to bind the wounds of hate, selfishness and disrespect and begin to heal. Every relationship from the most intimate to the most casual would do well if our code of ethics or standard bearer was 1 Corinthians 13. Imagine how your relationships would be if: Your love is patient, your love is kind. Your love does not envy, your love does not boast. Your love is not proud, your love does not dishonor others. Your love is not self-seeking, your love is not easily angered. Your love keeps no record of wrongs. Your love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

Your love always protects, your love always trusts, your love always hopes. Your love always perseveres. Your love never fails. This kind of love can't be manufactured or purchased, it has to be a gift of personal giving. It is the kind of love that says, "I am committed" to you and to our relationship. The list above is a big list, but we can all work towards adding one or two of these to our key relationships. Not sure where to begin re-read the verse and replace “your” with your name and it will give you a good starting point (ouch). Want to join me in a selfless (not self- love) revolution?